Good Vs. Decent

During an interview with Tim Preuss, I talked about this kind of philosophy/idea that I have when it comes to people and more specifically myself. That philosophy/idea being that I would rather be a “decent person” rather than a “good person.” (For what I said specifically I would implore you to check out the interview) Now through this piece, I would like to explain what I mean when I talk about “decent people” and “good people.”

 

What I mean by “decent people”

When I talk about “decent people”, I am talking about one kind of average individual. This kind of individual goes through their lives doing their best to get through the day and live. And when it just gets to be too much, they have a much more normal reaction (or at least to the majority of society). They break down to get to their most vulnerable point (and that will vary between each person), they’ll cry, get angry, and then they’ll laugh at themselves and then look at what took them to that point or they will just laugh and then forget it, move on and address it later.

When it comes to individual problems in their lives, they address them and try to deal with them. But are not always nice while they are dealing with those problems. When it comes to people, they treat them well. But if you wrong then it takes a bit to get back to the place both you and the “decent person” were before you wronged them. On the other hand in some cases, you can never get back to that place or can never interact with that “decent person” ever again because of use the way or the severity of how you wronged them.

And that comes down to one thing about decent people, they are more likely to recognize human nature. “Decent people” do have a tendency to be optimistic about people, but they recognize human nature for better or worse. All in all, “decent people” are people who work in the grey area. But they are capable of being good or even great people and usually are. Though, there is one factor that creates that difference between “decent people” and “good people.” Which I will get to later in this piece.

What I mean by “good people”

When I talk about “good people”, I am talking about another kind of individual. Unlike “decent people”, “good people are a much smaller group. And when it comes to these individuals, these people not only try to get through the day, they try to excel in most aspects of their lives. Along with that, they are more likely to try to add to the world, whether through charity, volunteer work, etc.

Now here is the thing, most people have that aspect of “good people.” We help our fellow man when we can, but it’s the fact that “good people” are more likely to go out of their way to do it. And when it comes to how they deal with their day to day lives, they will all of the things that you or I would do, but they try to get to that reflection part of the process so that they can get back to work. And when it comes to individual problems, like “decent people”, they will deal with those problems, but they are more likely to be nice while they are dealing with those problems.

Then, you get to how “good people” deal with other people, they are generally kinder to people and are more likely to be forgiving of people have wronged them. Though, but like “decent people” they have a “point of no-return.” And that comes to the fact that “good people” are more likely to be optimistic about human nature. All in all, “good people” are people who try to be the best they can be and try to better the world around them.

Why I choose to call myself decent instead of good

Now, you are probably wondering why I would call myself decent and not call myself good. And the reason I call myself decent instead of good, goes to the big difference between “good people” and “decent people.” And that is the possible fall from grace and that possible comeback. And for “decent people, they have a bit more wiggle room to make a comeback, while good people have a far bigger challenge when they go from “good” to “bad”.

While “decent people” can become “indecent people”, and have an easier job when making a comeback. And it is not just that is easier to be “decent” than “good.” It also that comes to just who I am. I know I am a good guy, but I don’t always get to that level. So the way I see it if I can’t always be good, I might as well try to be a “decent person.” And be really happy when I am a “good person.”

Author: Matthew Hall

Good Vs. Decent

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